INDIVIDUAL therapy
Anyone, at any moment in their life, may experience difficulties in their intimacy, hindering them from living a satisfying and gratifying sexual life.
Some of these problems result in an inability to engage in safe and pleasurable sexual contact, aversion to intimacy even with a loved one, pain, discomfort, and dissatisfaction. These issues can stem from psychological, neurological, physical, or medication-related factors.
In Tantric tradition, it is argued that one of the most blocked areas of sexuality is the THROAT!
It’s not just the sexual/primal scream of orgasm!
But the verbalisation of our erotic desires, our sexual needs, what we want, what we like, and above all, what we FEEL or DON’T FEEL.
“what appears today has already been lived before”
Many of the disorders related to Human Sexuality go beyond this theme.
They manifest in sexuality, but the “original problem” typically arises before the individual’s sexual maturity: it has systemic (family-related) origins, traumatic roots, cultural, religious, or other sources.
An early event rooted in childhood, the programming of a belief system, a traumatic occurrence that disrupted our sense of emotional security, among other factors, is now expressed through the channel of sexuality.
Sexuality is not the disorder or problem but rather the consequence of a developmental issue that can occur at any stage of human life.
The physical and sexual aspects, fundamentally, are just manifestations of how we exist and coexist with our bio-psychic and psycho-affective dimensions.
The web of life is unique and unparalleled. All the issues that weave and compose our affective-erotic history ultimately reflect in how we experience our adult loves.
One must look at the personal and unique biography of our history, how we experienced primary bonds in the past, to understand the difficulties in adult sexuality, to comprehend the intimate and erotic awareness we have today, in the present.
Sexuality is a form of expressing our individuality!
The Biointegrative therapeutic approach I propose combines clinical studies in the science of sexuality with holistic and integrative psychotherapy, where the human being is viewed from a perspective of body-mind-soul-spirit-emotion.
I incorporate the ancestral wisdom of the body with the contemporary approach of sexuality studies, invoking the multiple levels of cognitive and emotional intelligence, neuro-somatic internal resources, and the spiritual mystery that each of us carries.
In each session, I address all areas of sexuality, including clinical sexology (anatomy, physiology, sexual dysfunctions), psycho-trauma, relationship psychology, and, most importantly, the fundamental principles of sacred spiritual traditions such as Tantra, Tao, and shamanism.
SOME DIFFICULTIES AND OBSTACLES TO PLEASURE:
FEMALE BODY
FEMALE ORGASM DISORDER (ANORGASMIA)
Anorgasmia, or Female Orgasm Disorder, can be defined as a recurrent or persistent inhibition of orgasm – the absence or delay of orgasm, even with adequate stimulation during sexual intercourse or intimate touch practices.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
This disorder originates from potential traumatic experiences in a woman’s sexual history. Childhood issues or life events that affect the perception of pleasure in sex, parental repression, religious beliefs, or trauma caused by sexual abuse are common causes. Low erotic self-awareness, lack of sexual literacy or education, problems related to sexual interest/excitement, marital relationship issues, and other emotional difficulties are also prevalent. Medical conditions and medications also significantly influence the orgasmic experience.
Seeking psychotherapy and psychosexual counseling helps identify the underlying causes of the blockage during intimate contact and find solutions for overcoming the difficulty.
SEXUAL AVERSION
Extreme, persistent, or recurring aversion with avoidance of all (or nearly all) genital sexual contacts with a sexual partner, leading to a state of repulsion and distress, avoiding any possible erotic contact.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
This disorder originates from potential traumatic experiences in the psycho-emotional or sexual history of the individual. The body is biologically prepared for pleasure, healthy intimacy, sex, and ultimately for human reproduction. Usually, aversion to sex is a psychotraumatic construction that can be overcome with a gentle approach to developmental trauma.
HYPOACTIVE SEXUAL DESIRE OR LACK OF LIBIDO
Absence, persistence, or recurrent lack of desire, fantasies, erotic thoughts, or sexual contact causing personal anxiety and a sense of guilt.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
There are organic/somatic factors that give rise to this disorder (such as neuroendocrine diseases, diabetes, metabolic disorders, hormonal imbalances), medication use, and psychological causes (marital problems, mood disorders, lack of motivation for life, depressive or burnout states, among others).
Sexual psychotherapy helps identify not only the organic cause but also the psycho-affective/emotional origin that generates the low libido condition, contributing to the solution and overcoming of the difficulty.
GENITO-PELVIC PAIN DISORDER: VAGINISMUS & DYSPAREUNIA
Vaginismus is an involuntary action/contraction of the vaginal muscles that hinders penetration and causes pain during sexual intercourse. Typically, at the core of vaginismus, there is a combination of physical and psychological/emotional stimuli that lead the woman to anticipate pain during sexual intercourse. We are, therefore, dealing with a dysfunction influenced by anticipatory anxiety. Reacting to the anticipation of pain, the body automatically contracts, tightening the vaginal muscles – as if it were trying to “protect itself.” The woman feels increasing pain and anticipates more and more that it may occur during penetration, maintaining a negative cycle of anxiety, known as the “pain cycle.”
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
This disorder also originates from potential traumatic experiences in the psycho-emotional or sexual history of the woman. There are various psychological causes that generate this protective response in the body. The “trauma,” stored in the neuro-muscular reflex of the woman’s body, gradually overlays the traumatic experience onto new information related to pleasure and orgasm. It can be overcome with a gentle approach to developmental trauma, sexual psychotherapy, and if necessary, accompanied by pelvic physiotherapy.
DYSPAREUNIA OR PAIN DURING SEX
Dyspareunia is a sensation of discomfort or recurrent pain during penetration (whether in sexual intercourse, a gynecological examination, the use of a tampon, etc.). It can occur at any age, at the beginning of sexual relationships, during penetration or outside of it, at the moment of orgasm, or even after the relationships have ended.
Dyspareunia takes away the sexual pleasure from an individual and can interfere with sexual arousal and orgasm.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
Causes are primarily organic but may also involve potential traumatic experiences in the psycho-emotional or sexual history of the woman. The “trauma,” stored in the neuro-muscular reflex of the woman’s body, gradually overlays the traumatic experience onto new information related to pleasure and orgasm. As with any other genito-pelvic pain disorder, it can be overcome with a gentle approach to developmental trauma, sexual psychotherapy, and if necessary, accompanied by pelvic physiotherapy.
MALE BODY
HYPOACTIVE SEXUAL DESIRE DISORDER
Absence, persistence, or recurrent lack of desire, fantasies, erotic thoughts, or sexual contact, which often causes significant difficulties in the realm of intimate relationships.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
The primary factor for male low desire is age and consequent hormonal changes. However, there are also other determining factors such as medical conditions and medication use, issues with sexual arousal, difficulty achieving orgasm, psychological aspects (marital problems, low self-esteem and self-love, mood disorders, lack of motivation for life, depressive or burnout states, anxiety, stress, etc.), prolonged sexual abstinence, among others. It is common in this type of dysfunction for multiple factors with various origins to be present.
Engaging in sexual psychotherapy helps identify not just the symptom but the underlying causes that gave rise to this condition, finding solutions to overcome the difficulty.
HYPERACTIVE SEXUAL DESIRE DISORDER
It is characterized by a high level of sexual desire and activity. It is only classified as a psychological disorder when it begins to negatively impact the individual’s social and emotional life. It is often considered an addiction, with symptoms that include compulsive, obsessive, and impulsive behaviors. Different levels of addiction range from compulsive and uncontrolled masturbation to adultery, prostitution, engaging in sex in inappropriate locations, and some paraphiliac behaviors such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, virtual sexual compulsion (virtual sex), among others.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
Hypersexuality has its roots in numerous causes, but it is primarily associated, like any addiction or compulsion, with systemic issues rooted in childhood. Traumatic events, diseases such as dementia, or organic factors can also be influential. Sexual psychotherapy can be crucial in recovering a healthy sexuality since this disorder originates from psycho-emotional rather than organic causes. It will be crucial to learn to better deal with anxiety, emotional deprivation, feelings of loneliness, and to gain control over compulsive behaviors, among other essential measures.
ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
It is the persistent or recurrent difficulty in obtaining and/or maintaining a satisfactory erection until the end of sexual activity.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
Erectile dysfunction typically has a psycho-affective origin. Common psychological aspects include excessive altruism, fear of failure, pressure for results, issues related to self-image, deterioration of the romantic relationship, depression, feelings of guilt regarding the inability to satisfy the partner, among others. Organic factors are also influential, such as medication, substance abuse (drugs and alcohol), diabetes, hypertension, nervous issues like pre-coital anxiety, hormonal changes, and others.
Engaging in sexual psychotherapy helps identify the causes of dysfunction, with the therapeutic approach being tailored to whether the dysfunction is exclusively associated with organic factors (medication) or, on the contrary, related to psycho-emotional causes.
PREMATURE EJACULATION
It is characterized by ejaculation that always or almost always occurs within 1 minute after penetration and the inability to delay ejaculation in almost every penetration.
⇢ ETIOLOGY – CAUSES:
Considered the most common dysfunction in the male intimate panorama, the primary cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety. The main issue with this dysfunction is that the more frequent the ejaculations by the individual, the more anxiety is generated, more adrenaline is produced, and the next ejaculation occurs more rapidly. In some cases, the anxiety is so overwhelming that it leads to the development of another type of erectile dysfunction. No theory about the organic causes of premature ejaculation has been proven, except for some neurological diseases.
Sexual psychotherapy and counseling help identify the underlying causes of difficulty during intimate contact and find solutions to overcome the disorder.
“Prioritize your intimate life and the relationships you nurture. You can and should assert your inherent right to a fulfilling and nourishing intimacy.”
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